Many women find it easy to feel and express love for others. You’re probably one of them. And what about the other side of the coin? Are you as good in truly opening up and receiving care and nurturing and kindness from the people in your life? Why not try it out!

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“The most I can do for my friend is simply be his friend.” – Henry David Thoreau

We have seen in yesterday’s post that ‘Love’ is one of 24 character strengths. The important thing about it: it’s a two-way street. We have both the capacity to give love to others and the capacity to receive love from others. This may seem common sense, but it’s not. Why?

When it comes to a feeling of love, of connecting and caring for the welfare of someone else, I know quite a few women who are proficient in this art. On the other hand, when the task consists in truly opening up and receiving love, receiving care and nurturing and kindness from others (in their terms and how they are able to express it) well, not all of us score that high I would say.

Of course this is related to letting go of perfectionism and trying to control everything and getting to grips with things. I stop now, you don’t need to hear this over and over again, I know.

Well, I offer you two remedies that are fun, easy and can be implemented right away:

The first one is practising self-compassion, I’ll take this issue up again during the next days.

The second one is even easier: simply open up!


All you have to do is to be aware of all the love you get. Open up for love.

It’s not just about romantic love in a partnership that is so highly estimated in our societies (and leads to so much suffering as well).

However, ‘what if’ you solely focused on all the ways your husband or partner is expressing his love for you: by listening, sharing feelings and thoughts, appreciating, supporting showing his affection, trying to make you feel special.

It may take the form of close attachment, care, deep emotional connection and nurturing like with your children or parents;

You may observe acts of respect, kindness and care from friends;

Eventually you can open up to receiving sympathetic joy, compassion and loving kindness from others.


I suggest that you are bold and try to stick with this at least a couple of days.

No urge to immediately getting even – on the contrary! Strengthen your receiving muscle.

Please let me know how it went by leaving a comment!

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PS: this post is part of a 30 day blogging challenge.

Photo: Wikimedia commons, Bowenpan

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